one of one

The chances are very good that while you were reading last week’s post, I was in the hospital. I don’t know how I ever decided on the time, but for years I have had the posts scheduled to published between 4 and 4:30 prevailing eastern time Monday mornings. Last Monday at 7:30 in the morning I was in route to the emergency room. I’d say don’t worry, it’s nothing serious, but seriously, can you ever say that with a straight face with an emergency room visit a part of the equation. But I can say, don’t worry. I’ve been down that road before.

There are parts of me that pretty much resemble a high school science experiment and to be perfectly honest, work just about as well. Things leak, things creak, sometimes things need a better tightening than the local mechanic, er the office physician can provide. So please don’t worry. In fact, that’s kind of the whole point to this post.

I have a feeling I’ve said sometime before that I had never been inside a hospital other than to work or to visit someone in one for the first 55 years of my life. No broken bones, no falling off bikes, no unexpected allergic reactions. Once I did take a nasty fall while rappelling but that was dealt with in a first aid tent so I’m not going to count that. No, that first part, probably first and second parts of my life, involved minimal medical management. But man did I make up for it since. And all that time, I’ve done it without a significant or even insignificant other at home, rolling bandages, and preparing for my return with anxious anticipation, overflowing TLC, and bowlsful of chicken soup. Nope. Just me.

Oh, please don’t mistake that for self-pity nor misunderstand that nobody is in some home, some where worrying a tad that I return to my home. And they will even stop by with chicken soup or its 21st century equivalent. But there will not be that person who when she might step out into the porch for the day’s mail, holler back to the neighbor “No, he’s not on a trip but was admitted to the hospital a couple days ago. How nice of you to notice and ask. I’ll be sure to tell him you did.”

Kind of funny isn’t it.  An odd thing to think about. But it’s been thought before. I had one hospitalization that went on for several weeks. At the time, it wasn’t unusual for me to be away for some days at a time for something work related. No one might have even realized I wasn’t at a conference in Las Vegas until the priest on the second Sunday I was in the hospital included me when he asked for prayers for our sick parishioners. I know no one would have noticed because that’s exactly what my next-door neighbors said when they popped in to visit that Sunday afternoon.

When one of two is missing, the void seems bigger than when one of one is gone. And when one of one returns, the welcome home is much less welcoming. I can probably write an entire post on that. Maybe I will someday. Not today. Today I’m going to try to get to sleep a little earlier than usual. Yesterday was my first full day home. Hopefully whenever you get around to reading this, I am still home.


Gene Kranz was the director of NASA mission operations and is noted for the modern mantra, failure is not an option. Or is it? We say what we think in the latest Uplift!


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13 thoughts on “one of one

  1. Oh my goodness. I’m glad to hear that you ARE home…and I’m sure hoping that’s where you stay. Sending big healing hugs…and good wishes. Rest well, enjoy your own bed and thanks for letting us know what’s up. If I had a magic wand, I’d be whisking away what ails you. Again and again. Take care, Michael! 💕

    1. Thank you for the offer of your magic wand Vicki, that is if you had one! 😉 Sometimes I’m sure it’s magic that is keeping me going…magic, spare parts, and lots of prayers.

  2. Michael, I’m so sorry for what happened–and you weren’t specific about what it was! But I’m grateful you’re back home–even as one of one. You matter to many people–me included. Know that I’m praying for your swift and complete recovery–and that your sense of humor wasn’t permanently damaged by whatever happened. Take care of yourself, please!

    1. Thank you Dayle. You know you matter to many also. It was nothing worry-worthy. One of the many things a “normal” person would fluff off with a little bengay and a stiff drink. To be honest, it was nice to have someone else cook and wash dishes for a week!

  3. Glad you are home, Michael. I can relate to this a bit. I’ve often said about being a single parent that I’m loved a great deal but not cared for at all. It teaches a different kind of self-reliance. The kind that has to know how to take care, really take care of oneself. Sending a lot of good wishes to you!

    1. Thank you Wynne. I am sure you also are cared for, likely just differently than what society presupposes. Still, it can be hard to do so much alone. Sometimes I think that makes us even better caregivers. My daughter has been on her own for over 10 years, but I’ve never stopped parenting and she’s always openly welcomed it. And now is a great support for me even when I don’t ask for it.

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